When fear stands in your way
I’ve always been afraid. And honestly, I’m not sure why. I had a wonderful childhood, I have a family who loves me, I feel purpose in my life, I’ve faced trials (who hasn’t!) but truly, I have been blessed with a happy life. And yet, fear has played an ENORMOUS role in my life.
At times, it’s left me with missed opportunities, discouragement and even left my body physically drained and debilitated. And yet with the opportunity to face such huge fears, I’ve learned I have some hardcore courage… deep down there somewhere. Whether it’s acting for or against me, fear’s just a part of me - always has been, probably always will be. Needless to say, I’ve learned some killer coping skills :) This one’s my favorite. So if fear is keeping you from taking that step forward, being your best self, or just living life, I hope this helps.
1. Acknowledge what you’re afraid of. Don’t fight your fears; thoughts are just thoughts! Let them come and acknowledge them. Put your fears out there in the open. Sometimes this step alone can put things in perspective.
Even though I know it’s what I’m meant to do right now, I'm afraid to start this blog. I’m afraid no one will read it. I’m more afraid someone will. I’m afraid I won’t say the right thing, that what I say won’t make a difference, or that by being honest and true to myself, others might think the worst of me. I’ve set up the blog, put together my About page, even set up an email list for anyone who wants a little hope delivered to their inbox… but I’m afraid to hit Publish.
2. Now it’s time to visualize. Imagine taking those fears and negative thoughts out of your body and package them up in some kind of container. Disconnect yourself from them. You are not your fear; you are in control.
3. Get rid of the container. Throw it overboard, down to the bottom of the ocean. Smash it with a hammer. Fling it off a cliff. Me, I rocket mine into outer space where it blows up - I guess I watch too much Star Trek :)
4. Take a deep breath. Imagine those fears are no longer a part of you. Another deep breath. Step forward in faith. Accept that big opportunity. Express your true heart to him. Go to that girl’s night. Whatever it is, do it. You have more strength than you realize. And courage, well it has a way of showing up when you need it the most.
Deep breath in. Deep breath out… publish.